How to Dine Alone “Adjacent”

Traveling alone is a choice that I make regularly. Sometimes people tell me, “I could never do it.” When I ask why it is sometimes because they cannot bear the thought of dining alone. Experience has taught me that sometimes the best encounters with the place and its people happen because I am seated alone and so I am more accessible and open. And the food tastes the same.

Recently my friend Ray shared with me how he uses opportunities to eat alone as a date with himself. While in France and England I had the chance to enjoy dates with myself on several occasions and it does change the atmosphere in a very positive way.  Or travel with a group for a long period and suddenly dining alone, eating just what you want, taking only the amount of time you want to take, leaving before or after dessert and coffee. It is divine.

On the last page of the September 2014 issue of Bon Appetit, actor Jason Segal shares his “Rules for eating out alone:

1. Bring a book. When you have a book You aren’t really alone. It’s more alone adjacent.

2. Don’t be bashful. The other people alone probably feel the same way you do. You’re all “alone together.”

3. Think of it as a date with yourself. Get to know yourself. If you get along with yourself, there is a very good chance you will get to go home with yourself.”

I’ll toast to that!

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2 thoughts on “How to Dine Alone “Adjacent”

  1. Hi Julie. It’s a coincidence that I should see a post from you come up today. I’ve just sat down at my computer to FINALLY complete a post about Greg and Chris’ Tour De France trip, and there YOU are, popping up in my inbox! My Mum has travelled/dined alone many, many times, and is very happy to do so. I haven’t been overseas by myself, but I’m also happy & confident to dine alone, not that I do so very often.The bonus of being comfortable with being alone is that you’re rarely lonely, as such. Thanks for another great post!

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